tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post5383457200395290327..comments2023-11-29T00:50:04.094-08:00Comments on Mine to Command: Arrested Development jAllenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06282963869813954232noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-49840769264817187102014-05-02T05:05:36.802-07:002014-05-02T05:05:36.802-07:00Although I believe that any developmental problems...Although I believe that any developmental problems can happen to any family, any child, conceived naturally or with the help of ART - and so in case of your cousin's son it may well have been the other way around, there is one other thing I'm more worried about. Both mine and my husband's age. I'm going to be turning 38 this year, he's over 40. When we started TTC, I was barely over 30 and he was just over 35. Perfect age to have a bay, right? Well, over 6 years later I can't help catching myself thinking of how our bodies have changed over this time and how our age affects my eggs and his sperm. I can't ignore the statistics of the rising chances of various issues our baby may face.. This haunts me. We try to lead a healthy lifestyle, but would that be enough? Kashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08336515994729814909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-48911487214137184412014-05-01T17:28:21.993-07:002014-05-01T17:28:21.993-07:00I too know someone who took a very long time to ac...I too know someone who took a very long time to acknowledge their child's autism. It's got to be one of the most scariest things to face as a parent. Hopefully they will find it in their hearts to reach out for some help for their precious child. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09557861103469077524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-3261619925853216342014-05-01T16:21:53.717-07:002014-05-01T16:21:53.717-07:00I think this is something that's impossible no...I think this is something that's impossible not to worry about, regardless of whether or not it's an IVF or a non-IVF pregnancy. <br /><br />My sister's son is autistic (natural pregnancy) and I think we all kind of knew about it long before they finally admitted to it and went through the proper testing and diagnosis... no matter what, it's hard to admit that your child might have special needs of any kind. The good news is that he's making extraordinary progress, and I definitely think that trend will continue. We don't know what challenges we will face - but we face them.Deedahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02386061097583007160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-26946498332566963072014-05-01T11:41:57.960-07:002014-05-01T11:41:57.960-07:00I've often wondered if I would have felt cheat...I've often wondered if I would have felt cheated if I had conceived a disabled or delayed child via IVF. Actually, I guess it might even be worse now with an egg donor, since the whole point is that her eggs are young and healthy. There's no way of knowing, though. Sometimes it's just shitty luck.Aramishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12275274008426941898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-24650250401475419712014-05-01T10:56:22.967-07:002014-05-01T10:56:22.967-07:00I think you've touched on a topic that a lot o...I think you've touched on a topic that a lot of us have worried about. During my research into adoption, I learned a lot about developmental delays and behavioural issues that can arise. It definitely helped prepare me for what may come, but also made me a bit nervous to take on those challenges. <br /><br />I must admit that when we decided to go with a donor, a part of me was relieved because husband's sperm is so poor in all parameters it made me worry if it would have an effect on the DNA. That being said, we both know that there are so many factors that can influence a child's development and you just really never know what issues your child may face. Gypsy Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13026496787029080243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-34018602328156278572014-05-01T08:31:04.457-07:002014-05-01T08:31:04.457-07:00I have had the same worries as you. What if we...I have had the same worries as you. What if we're asking for trouble? It's probably just another fear that has resulted from the torment of infertility. I am glad to see you are relatively ok and moving forward. You continue to inspire me.Evehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15260723824329854148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-88365979867381532762014-05-01T06:45:13.645-07:002014-05-01T06:45:13.645-07:00I wouldn't read too much into the IVF vs. non-...I wouldn't read too much into the IVF vs. non-IVF baby thing.That is crazy he got the boot for late potty training though. Wow! You are so right. There will always be challenges. I think pregnancy is just the beginning of a whole new set of worries.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07415140299306373048noreply@blogger.com