tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post1261745417152377021..comments2023-11-29T00:50:04.094-08:00Comments on Mine to Command: The Curse of FertilityjAllenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06282963869813954232noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-25048613908980909672014-10-13T14:43:25.622-07:002014-10-13T14:43:25.622-07:00You are right, and we all need to take a step back...You are right, and we all need to take a step back and remember sometimes that just because someone can get pregnant easily doesn't mean that they don't also have their struggles. You are so good at seeing every side.Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-39066706762384363992014-10-09T16:48:16.678-07:002014-10-09T16:48:16.678-07:00I might be a little guilty of that sort of surpris...I might be a little guilty of that sort of surprise on FB. I did do a pregnancy announcement, but looking back it seemed a little vague and cryptic. And aside from posting a few pictures where I was obviously pregnant, I never mentioned anything about my pregnancy. Then I posted about the girls being born a couple weeks after the fact. You are so much better at seeing past the jealousy than I am. I should take lessons.JenShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00056681492831041470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-51051622707940668522014-10-05T12:51:55.486-07:002014-10-05T12:51:55.486-07:00Phew, I didn't know those statistics. And yeah...Phew, I didn't know those statistics. And yeah, fb... except in a few comments I still haven't written anything about this pregnancy or the twins. Because it doesn't feel right to do one without the other and I can't quite figure out how.<br />And I can so relate to the guilt after finding out that someone else's story wasn't as easy as it seemed at first glance.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-53467880559197340112014-10-04T17:53:41.993-07:002014-10-04T17:53:41.993-07:00Still... It's hard to hear of anyone's pre...Still... It's hard to hear of anyone's pregnancy while going through infertility. BUT, as Emily said above- even in the midst of your own struggle, what a sweet soul you are for recognizing others' struggles too... xoAubrey https://www.blogger.com/profile/10268033706598268682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-35648033264145323022014-10-04T17:04:59.059-07:002014-10-04T17:04:59.059-07:00I just love that you're always taking a step b...I just love that you're always taking a step back to consider others' struggles. That says a lot about you as a person!Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07415140299306373048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-25096974899679938102014-10-04T14:27:35.671-07:002014-10-04T14:27:35.671-07:00I had always planned on a big "after years of...I had always planned on a big "after years of infertility..." reveal on Facebook, but now I've second guessed myself and sort of don't feel like it's any of the business of all the people I was barely friends with in high school. Then again, I don't necessarily want to show up with a kid later an give the impression that it was all just booze and timing. Is it weird that I feel like I have this sort of obligation to the infertility community? Social media makes human interaction so much stranger these days. I'm old.Aramishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12275274008426941898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-82821790146249185042014-10-03T15:48:15.424-07:002014-10-03T15:48:15.424-07:00I would consider any pregnancy a blessing but I wo...I would consider any pregnancy a blessing but I would also be soooo scared and stressed if I had a twin pregnancy like your friend's. When we would get "maybe it's twins!" jokes (why? I have no idea. Do people say things like that to every pregnant person?) and I always would respond with a withering "that is so not funny" stare. It is true that challenges come in many guises, although as you have pointed out before, sometimes ignorance is bliss. I would suspect that your friend's silence on FB shows that she is not ignorant of the risks, however. I too chose not to mention my pregnancy on FB. Not sure if I will make a late announcement or just announce a birth one day. I imagine one day I'll have to mention or close the account LOL. torthĂșilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-77239715043086297902014-10-03T08:32:09.343-07:002014-10-03T08:32:09.343-07:00Nothing makes me panic more than an unexpected pre...Nothing makes me panic more than an unexpected pregnancy post, especially if there was no earlier mention and they're nearing their due date. This happened with a distant relative. She posted a vacation picture of her feet by the pool and 2 weeks later announced the birth of her daughter! I was like WTF? It makes you feel like these women took a magic pill or bought their newborn at the baby store. Facebook is torture. I have set my profile page as a "favorite," so I never have to read my news feed. Some day, I'll get over it, but it's still not normal to receive information in this way. It's like everyone has a brand, which they control and manipulate to create the best representation of themselves. Of course, I am guilty of the same. Anyhow, don't get me started on Facebook! My friend is contemplating divorce and Facebook is a nightmare for her as well. Kudos to you for stepping outside of your struggles to recognize another person's potential challenges, but you and I both know the babies will be born perfectly healthy! ;)Evehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15260723824329854148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-62890594326163108162014-10-03T07:22:05.752-07:002014-10-03T07:22:05.752-07:00I laughed out loud at FertileBook. I am most defi...I laughed out loud at FertileBook. I am most definitely guilty of resenting fertiles and assuming that their path was easy and worry free. It's a good reminder that everyone has their own struggles. The Run Away Storkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00971471535179009005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-35129242894612068602014-10-03T06:57:52.466-07:002014-10-03T06:57:52.466-07:00I always tell myself that everyone struffles in th...I always tell myself that everyone struffles in their own way. I used to be jealous of a girlfriend who conceived twin boys on her first try, but then her boyfriend left her while she was pregnant and she raised them alone. Tandem breastfeeding and all! I've always felt guilty for my jealousy and less than enthusiastic congratulations I gave to her in the beginning. <br /><br />Gypsy Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13026496787029080243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-8779078820388897092014-10-03T04:49:33.000-07:002014-10-03T04:49:33.000-07:00It's tempting to want to trump someone else...It's tempting to want to trump someone else's pain. A thousand times I have wanted to trade a fertitle's pain for mine. Even though in my head I know that pain is pain. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09557861103469077524noreply@blogger.com