tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post2561528899644543557..comments2023-11-29T00:50:04.094-08:00Comments on Mine to Command: Cluelessness aboundsjAllenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06282963869813954232noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-77825860759098851972013-11-05T01:48:00.086-08:002013-11-05T01:48:00.086-08:00It does amaze me how some people just can't ca...It does amaze me how some people just can't catch on to things. Seems to me, most people in that circumstance would understand that he probably had a drinking problem and not to venture into such personal questions. As for asking people if they have kids, or something along those lines, I think it's a normal question, although awkward for us infertiles. Having been married for 16 years with no kids, I've been asked way too many times to count. Now that I'm pregnant, I get the awkward questions such as "are these your first?" and "do twins run in your family?" Hmmm... I think I just found a topic for a blog post!Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-88827483012782531382013-11-04T16:43:43.679-08:002013-11-04T16:43:43.679-08:00Poor Jason. My one and only experience like this ...Poor Jason. My one and only experience like this was before I was infertile, and I was sitting with a group at work that was all talking about their kids. I glanced at an older guy who hadn't been chatty, and stupidly asked him if he had kids. He replied (with that look I now know oh so well) that he didn't, and "it was something that never worked out" for him and his wife. Fortunately I had the good sense to change the subject, but I've never forgotten it and it's even more poignant now that I'm in the same situation myself. <br /><br />And it's funny, but I tend to have the opposite reaction you do! If it's someone I know pretty well, I have no hesitation in responding "I can't, I'm infertile" and watching them squirm. Whereas if it's a stranger, I'm just polite and say no. Wonder why the difference?Aramishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12275274008426941898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-61636654127117184892013-11-04T16:40:34.614-08:002013-11-04T16:40:34.614-08:00Common sense absolutely is NOT common... Honestly....Common sense absolutely is NOT common... Honestly... People... They're quite amazingly unbelievable!Aubrey https://www.blogger.com/profile/10268033706598268682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-87852424544565222112013-11-04T16:32:05.485-08:002013-11-04T16:32:05.485-08:00This is a very good point. It is never okay to put...This is a very good point. It is never okay to put someone on the spot, even if you assume what you are saying wouldn't make the other person uncomfortable, you just never know what could be going on behind the scenes. <br /><br />Ever since discovering our infertility, of course I have been hyper-aware of these types of situations. However, I must admit that I once asked co-worker a few years ago if she planned to have a second child. She said that yes she did, and I know I said something along the lines of "You should start now!" or "being close in age is best!" ohhh... I just cringe at the memory... Come to find out a year or so ago that she was dealing with unexplained secondary infertility. <br /><br />I guess one thing I learned over the past few years is to be much more aware of how comments made with innocent intentions can really sting. Gypsy Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13026496787029080243noreply@blogger.com