tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post5035926224421538146..comments2023-11-29T00:50:04.094-08:00Comments on Mine to Command: This too, shall pass...jAllenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06282963869813954232noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-24010409868594637962015-08-13T18:34:12.454-07:002015-08-13T18:34:12.454-07:00sounds like my first 3 months exactly...right down...sounds like my first 3 months exactly...right down to distended stomach. My son ended up having anal stenosis, diagnosed by a pediatric GI. Are her poops ever very loud? Also I bought the shusher "babyshusher.com" from amazon. He ended up liking that noise the best once he got to 3-4 months. We're at 6 months now and its great. It's all about survival...you're learning what works. Hang in there!Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09813863796218539610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-17022141010428992762015-08-07T08:13:12.950-07:002015-08-07T08:13:12.950-07:00Yay! Congratulate yourself! Yes, what works and ...Yay! Congratulate yourself! Yes, what works and what doesn't will change over time, but you'll figure it out then, too. When you block out all the chatter from other people, I've often found that the things you are inclined to do are the things that work, because you and the baby are subtly communicating with each other all the time. You aren't even conscious of it and you couldn't exactly put your finger on it, but stay in tune with you and your baby and forget about all the other stuff as much as you can. It won't always be easy, but you'll drop that deep-down feeling of confusion that signifies doing things in a way that just isn't what your instincts are telling you to do. Motherly instincts work, not because the mother is suddenly some otherworldly wise being, but because mothers and particularly involved fathers are receptive to their babies' personalities and preferences.emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10445546756521231621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-20607239698040750072015-08-06T06:29:06.840-07:002015-08-06T06:29:06.840-07:00So glad to hear that things are getting better. A...So glad to hear that things are getting better. After reading not only your post but others I'm thinking having the parents around right at first may not be the best idea. I know I surely would give some evil eyes to some of those type comments haha. I can see where I would find it comforting for the tips that do work but otherwise I think we'll just dive in together. Amiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04738442092989090297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-1397881478476063182015-08-06T05:46:57.696-07:002015-08-06T05:46:57.696-07:00So glad to read that you are gaining confidence. E...So glad to read that you are gaining confidence. Even little victories make a big difference! Laughing a bit at your account of (grand)parents "speaking for the baby" as a way of offering feedback/criticism. My parent are really very good about boundaries but my mom likes to do this sometimes and I want to say "passive aggressive much?" Anyway. You are doing great and however Jate changes, you will adapt and grow with her. torthĂșilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-9480276804278917542015-08-06T03:37:22.581-07:002015-08-06T03:37:22.581-07:00I'm so glad you found something that works for...I'm so glad you found something that works for soothing Jate (love that you still call her that!). I find hearing a baby cry so unsettling, especially if it's my own. Also, I have breastfed SB for what felt like every half hour sometimes, and I'm kind of glad we didn't have visitors in the first weeks. There sure were odd comments when we visited family, but by then I think we had found our groove. My dad is a militant breastfeeding supporter, but everyone else seems skeptic. Heck, some people comment now when I nurse her. Hang in there and stick with what works, no matter what they say!Conceptionally Challengedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07600863125990400886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-16251944136677778582015-08-05T19:04:07.667-07:002015-08-05T19:04:07.667-07:00Yay! Sorry I didn't get around to commenting ...Yay! Sorry I didn't get around to commenting on your first post, but it broke my heart to read how hard you were having it. I'm overjoyed that things are getting better! I also got a ton of (well meaning but wrong) comments about how often I was breastfeeding Q. If he was fussy, it was the first thing I tried and more often than not, it worked. But as you rightly note, a lot of that stuff stops working at the end of the fourth trimester...it's where we are right now and it's been a challenging couple of weeks as I try to figure out new ways to soothe and being on sleep. Hence the lack of commenting!! Aramishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12275274008426941898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-54728379263374090732015-08-05T17:52:09.519-07:002015-08-05T17:52:09.519-07:00Yay! I am so glad you are feeling better. You are...Yay! I am so glad you are feeling better. You are a kick ass mom that is for sure and don't let anyone make you feel otherwise. That is hard with the hormones immediately post partum but gets easier to block them out over time. I agree that the swaddle is a godsend and the 5 Ss definitely help! I hope you are able to get a little more sleep and enjoy the lil one. Unprolifichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11591711471214268339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-907621565480444292015-08-05T17:14:07.994-07:002015-08-05T17:14:07.994-07:00Oh yay!!!! That's sooooo wonderful! I'm gl...Oh yay!!!! That's sooooo wonderful! I'm glad a quick reread of Dr Karp's book helped Kate and better yet, helped you feel more confident. Despite my frustrations with all the insta-success stories while mine still screamed, we might not have survived without the 5 Ss. Like you said, 30 minutes of screaming is so hard, but it's infinitely better than hours and hours on end. Glad you've found your rhythm! Enjoy that sweet girl!Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11657607481465480125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-36242589140561675302015-08-05T17:00:41.129-07:002015-08-05T17:00:41.129-07:00It sounds to me like you're doing a great job-...It sounds to me like you're doing a great job- honestly! So happy you found something that soothes your sweet girl :)!Aubrey https://www.blogger.com/profile/10268033706598268682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-68184471604360163962015-08-05T15:09:07.270-07:002015-08-05T15:09:07.270-07:00Your description of nailing the 5 S's describe...Your description of nailing the 5 S's describes my experience to a T. I'm so glad that you found something that works to soothe Jate. And that white noise album was a frickin' godsend in my house. I remember when Max was 6 or 7 weeks old, people kept assuring me that it would get better and I thought, what if I just have a really unhappy baby and he's like this forever? They were right - it got better. That fourth trimester is no joke. Hang in there - you've got this.Megshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09996639181080995151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-52261074795135705442015-08-05T14:42:27.094-07:002015-08-05T14:42:27.094-07:00I'm so glad that you found something to soothe...I'm so glad that you found something to soothe Jate. My guests are finally all gone and we're on our own with A, we'll see how it goes, I definitely felt like I needed to be able to parent A without the input of others. He's still an easy baby, but I felt so frustrated by everyone else's [well meaning] advice/approach. Feeding is such a conundrum. I'm actually ignoring the advice of the pediatrician who suggested smaller more frequent feedings for A due to suspected reflux (which I doubt). But he never cried more angrily than when I limited his food. I feel like breastfeeding guidance is so much better, just let them eat when they want, but I guess the grass is always greener. It's not easy to figure out how to manage these tiny, wonderful creatures. You're doing great, mama.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-72929370365895263892015-08-05T14:34:31.339-07:002015-08-05T14:34:31.339-07:00I've tried commenting on 3 different posts but...I've tried commenting on 3 different posts but my phone messes it up!!! First... CONGRATS!!!! <br />Second...had a difficult fussy baby as well. It gets better. I know you'll find your zone! <br />Third...which you've just learned...listen to your gut instinct! She's hungry, feed her! Mommy knows! My Mom&Dad were very much like yours! <br />It just gets better and better! <br />Thinking if you!kshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13621807092343577126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-46941479355140228512015-08-05T14:34:00.970-07:002015-08-05T14:34:00.970-07:00Why the hell do people care how often you feed you...Why the hell do people care how often you feed your baby??? They eat like an ounce or two of liquid at a time, of course they are hungry all the time. Your mother sounds a little bit like my mother in law. We got a lot of "No one ever died from crying" because we would get up to soothe the crying babies. Apparently she wants to just let them cry indefinitely.<br />Glad you found your groove and what works for her and that you are getting to enjoy her now. Also, I am a big fan of white noise. The Sleep Sheep was one of our best purchases. We still put on the ocean sounds every time we put them to sleep and it's great for consistency when they have to sleep in new places.JenShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00056681492831041470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-38001457091379488992015-08-05T14:30:45.029-07:002015-08-05T14:30:45.029-07:00I am so glad things are better! I, too, thought I ...I am so glad things are better! I, too, thought I would die when my mom left, and then ended up doing much better after she left. She was helpful, but I needed to figure things out on my own. <br /><br />I'm also glad to have my faith in the Happiest Baby on the Block restored. I was so sad it wasn't working for you! We also spent the money on the soundtrack. And bought a bluetooth speaker to play it. But then we didn't want to leave our phones in the room with her, so we bought an ipod nano to be in there. So our "sound machine" aka "loud hair dryer" was hella expensive. But it works. And whatever works is worth it. <br /><br />I'm glad the ball is working! And you can be glad you worked out so much during pregnancy, so you have the stamina to keep up the bouncing ;)Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15954409643700006532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-46027274999922365222015-08-05T14:17:59.622-07:002015-08-05T14:17:59.622-07:00Say no to the mommy guilt! (Says the person that ...Say no to the mommy guilt! (Says the person that was suffering her own mommy guilt this morning). I'm glad you're starting to find a few things that work for baby Jate, to give both her AND you some relief. Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-74477764779300710032015-08-05T13:20:43.031-07:002015-08-05T13:20:43.031-07:00I was told Paloma couldn't possibly be hungry ...I was told Paloma couldn't possibly be hungry AGAIN ALREADY once by my father in law and the death stare I gave him was enough that he never said it again. The 5 Ss are so great. As per Andino's suggestion, I would nurse Paloma to sleep and then swaddle her once her body was limp. That way I could take my time and make sure the swaddle was perfect. She never broke free and I believe that's the reason she was always such a good night sleeper while swaddled. I'm a huge fan of the swaddle.<br /><br />So glad to hear you are feeling good and hitting your stride. Gypsy Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13026496787029080243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-56076587076443583752015-08-05T13:00:06.055-07:002015-08-05T13:00:06.055-07:00So hlad that things are going better! Phew! This ...So hlad that things are going better! Phew! This is hard. I am glad you are getting somw relief. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09557861103469077524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-55570080219736955252015-08-05T11:59:42.376-07:002015-08-05T11:59:42.376-07:00I'm so happy to read that things are going bet...I'm so happy to read that things are going better! You really just have to follow YOUR instincts as you are Kate's mother. Kate is too young to really be on a feeding schedule so feed her and much as she desires. The 5 S's were super helpful with Izzy as well!Non Sequitur Chicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07268138421234170972noreply@blogger.com