tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post725797960597306349..comments2023-11-29T00:50:04.094-08:00Comments on Mine to Command: The Second Wave of Grief jAllenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06282963869813954232noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-47925278806588847942014-05-14T20:56:21.603-07:002014-05-14T20:56:21.603-07:00I'm pretty sure, you are the least dramatic IV...I'm pretty sure, you are the least dramatic IVFer I follow. A little despair is perfectly reasonable, especially on that particular day.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06326763572650750036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-53986583720046487412014-05-14T05:11:06.135-07:002014-05-14T05:11:06.135-07:00"just transfer an embryo without a lethal ano..."just transfer an embryo without a lethal anomaly"- right? it seems so easy!<br /><br />"we still that the IVF option in our back pocket"- the trump card, right?<br /><br />Jane, I really, really resonate with all of this. I know our stories are pretty similar... how can high AMH yield such sucktastic results??? I'm so sorry Mother's Day was hard... I really understand. The only positive I can offer is this: even when all of your hope is gone, even when the tunnel seems dark and long, this community provides others to hope for you. Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11657607481465480125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-2986414310009272442014-05-13T19:53:40.234-07:002014-05-13T19:53:40.234-07:00I think your description of the second wave of gri...I think your description of the second wave of grief is really astute. Oftentimes we can't fully process bad news in the moment, and its effects unfold over time. I'm really hoping for a good outcome for your second IVF. I'll be rooting for you! Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01507531522613335860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-23528165016590342382014-05-12T16:09:10.964-07:002014-05-12T16:09:10.964-07:00I was just thinking that I've never really dwe...I was just thinking that I've never really dwelled on Mother's Day too much...it was always a day I thought about MY mom, not about the fact that I'm not a mom. But this year...I found it harder too. More failures, one "close but no cigar". Add to that the fact that we used our Mother's Day visit with M's folks to get them up to date on our donor plans...not the kind of conversation you want to have on Mother's Day. I can't be a mom....so I need someone else's eggs. Anyway, all this not to hijack your post but to agree with the fact that it seems to get harder every year. You're not being dramatic at all.Aramishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12275274008426941898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-54458571077656069272014-05-12T14:43:18.503-07:002014-05-12T14:43:18.503-07:00Oh Jane! I hated reading this post. You are not be...Oh Jane! I hated reading this post. You are not being dramatic....this is so hard. I'm so sorry for the grief you are feeling. You deserve to be a mother and I am so hopeful that next Mother's Day will be a much brighter time for you. Hugs! Jessah @ Dreaming of Dimpleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02945119397487785737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-38320920440274060922014-05-12T12:27:51.322-07:002014-05-12T12:27:51.322-07:00You aren't being dramatic. You have every righ...You aren't being dramatic. You have every right to feel the emotions all over again. So hoping that next year will be the first Mother's Day in a long time that you can CELEBRATE! You are overdue for the win!Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07415140299306373048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-60711083719331075912014-05-12T09:58:06.391-07:002014-05-12T09:58:06.391-07:00Hang on, girlfriend! We can do this!Hang on, girlfriend! We can do this!Evehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15260723824329854148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-57574222975426245552014-05-12T06:50:07.849-07:002014-05-12T06:50:07.849-07:00I'm so sorry that you have to go through this....I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. I've been reading your blog for quite awhile now and I always look forward to your new posts. Mother's Day is such a hard one to get through!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-38780189722509116302014-05-12T00:02:30.627-07:002014-05-12T00:02:30.627-07:00I'm so sorry that it is such a hard day for yo...I'm so sorry that it is such a hard day for you this year. Hoping that next year you will have reasons to be more positive.<br />And I think your observation on the guest room is very true - perhaps, among other aspects, the fact that my brother is occupying the guest room at the moment makes it a bit easier. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-29686928081657036502014-05-11T19:25:41.571-07:002014-05-11T19:25:41.571-07:00I am sorry and I know the feelings of maybe I shou...I am sorry and I know the feelings of maybe I should have done this or maybe I should have done that differently... I have tried not to second guess the things that have already happened and just move forward. I hope you have done something nice for yourself today. You deserve it! Thinking of you!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02776159795284248871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-70087034942165007222014-05-11T19:03:16.333-07:002014-05-11T19:03:16.333-07:00Ugh I'm so sorry. Just want you to know I'...Ugh I'm so sorry. Just want you to know I'm thinking of you today. XOXOAubrey https://www.blogger.com/profile/10268033706598268682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2808830305872285145.post-39873352903349048922014-05-11T17:31:47.910-07:002014-05-11T17:31:47.910-07:00Ah yes, the treatment of last resort--it feels lik...Ah yes, the treatment of last resort--it feels like once you get to IVF pregnancy will be imminent. And then sometimes it's not. I've most certainly prepared myself for failure, particularly for our first full IVF cycle--I've had my fill of disappointment. Today sucks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com